Charlotte from Sex and The City knocked it out of the park for me! Okay, my girl Bernetta is blogging about "The Kiss" between Carrie and Aiden (from a wife's perspective) so much to say on that one so check out her blog on Wiffe2010! However I'm gonna take this from the "Struggling" Moma's perspective! Now, my disclaimer regarding my opinion(s) of the whole Sex And The City saga, I've never really watched the show(s) so I can't speak from a 'true fan' perspective but seeing their latest flick (And Charlotte!!!), I'm all about this show now-lol, yeah, now that it's over, right-lol!? Well, to get to Charlotte, she came across, in the beginning of the movie ( and I'm assuming in the previous SATC episodes), as a very sheltered, naive and judgemental mom, woman, girlfriend, etc. Yall know the type, the ones that's "portraying" that they got it all together and their very world is crashing before their eyes! Well, I try real hard not to judge folks because I wanna understand "why" they think, act or say the things that they do before I say, "oh yeah, she crazy" (lol!) but this chick was slowly starting to get to me from the onset (of the movie) but then it happened....HER BREAKDOWN! Okay, not a full fledged breakdown but those of you who've seen the movie you know what I'm talking about....oops', and to those who haven't, SORRY:-). Anywho, when the "semi-breakdown" happened, Charlotte was doing what all of those mommies with the "S" on their chest do at a time of almost near destruction, "IT ALL"! Okay, another disclaimer, no way am I saying that we shouldn't do and be all that we "can" for our kids and families, I just think, once we do all that we "CAN" then that's it, Moma's clocking out...break time! Okay, so that out of the way. As I was saying, Charlotte was baking cupcakes with the kids, holding a screaming baby on her hip while talking on the phone. All the while her other child was begging for some attention.....does any of this sound vaguley familiar to any mommies out there, yeah it does me, well, to some degree.
Well Charlotte reached her breaking point when the older child (the one vying for Charlotte's attention) put "RED" paint all over her hands and ran dead into her mommie's backside and put RED painted handprints all over Charlotte's "vintage" pencil skirt! Yes! That was it, Charlotte screamed at the little girl, got off the phone, put the "screaming' baby down in her high chair and ran into the pantry to "CRY"! Okay mommies, this is where the "movie" stops here in this blog and "REAL" life picks up. By show of hands, how many have gotten to that point? How many have screamed at your kid for what (after you thought about it) was possibly the smallest infraction? How many have just walked away (not leaving the kids alone or anything, but let's be clear, that does happen) to get away? If any of you said no to "all" of these questions, then this blog is probably not for you. However, if any of you have said "yes" to AT LEAST one of these questions then join the club....YOU ARE NOT ALONE! At dinner with the Mochas after the show, I began to pose the question to the ladies, who did you most identifiy with and for the most part I think there were varying viewpoints. Some ladies identified with Carrie (the trendsetting fashionista), some identified or should I say, just loved Samantha and some with Charlotte of course because were all mommies so I think the vast majority had a hint of Charlotte in them but I overwhelming not only identified with Charlotte, heck I AM CHARLOTTE!!! Or should I say, I WAS CHARLOTTE!!! There was a point, early in my new mommy days where I thought I had to have it all together (Thank You God for revelation!) and one of the reasons I felt this way was because all of the mommies I knew, HAD IT ALL TOGHETHER, or so it seemed!
See, here in lies the problem (did I say that right, "in lies"-lol). Too many of us are sending out bad signals to other Women, Mommies, etc. Many of us are so stressed and tired, heck, let's take it a step further, UNHAPPY even with our lives but we're portraying to the new mom or the mom who's stressed to the max that 'we got this'! It's almost as if they're feeling that "if you believe the lie I'm putting out here then I'll start to believe it myself"! Everytime you saw Charlotte (especially in the beginning of the movie) she was always smiling and/or giving very sound and morally upstanding advice. It seemed as if this woman had set out and accomplished what so many of us are struggling to do, Balancing It All! I was sitting there like, she's gone crack in a minute, she's got to! And unbeknownst (is that really a word yall-lol) to me, she did! Now let's be clear, I wasn't rooting for Kristin Davis' character to loose it but what I was rooting for was some TRANSPARENCY"! Come on yall, you gotta admit that when she went into that pantry to cry, your spirits leaped up and praised the lord! My reason for describing it in this way is because God knows and he sees our hearts, our true "spirit man", the one who resides on the inside of us and in Charlotte's case the one that "Cried Out" in that pantry that she could no longer do this by herself! I loved that moment and it is, for me, the pivotal point in the show, well for women who are struggling with what she was struggling with, the Superwoman syndrome and then not being strong enough to be weak. It was deliverance time! Time to be set free from the facade that we can have it all, do it all and be it all (to everybody).....ALL AT THE SAME TIME! Oh, my disclaimer agian, I do believe we can do and be all of these things however with the right support system, prioritizing our life (lol!) and learning to say "No".
Thank you God for releasing me from the bondage of "people" and "perceptions"! There is no way I could have a blog or fb page or even an organization called "Struggling To Balance It All" if I was at all ashamed to admit that I am (struggling to balance it all)! My moma told me a long time ago that "sometimes peaches, struggle is God's will". I mean, could that staement be any truer? Look at where I am now 'due to my struggle'. I'm blogging about it and because of the blog some folks (who are honestly going through it yet who may never truly admit that they are) can at least quietly relate to what I'm experiencing and know that they are not alone! So "Go Charlotte"!!! You did that girl and I am so grateful that the movie went there and showcased your vulnerablility because we all are (vulnerable). And no matter how many times it takes us running into the pantry closet, holding the knob on the door "tightly" and LETTING IT ALL OUT, then dont be ashamed to do it! You do it until you get to the point where you realize that there are so many more Charlottes out there and that you are Not Alone! And once you realize that, accept it, know it and began to walk in the fact that you are not "Superwoman" and then be ok with the fact that you don't care to be!!!
Just Sharing My Commentary, What's Yours???
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April
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